Updated: Apr 14, 2021
Often times we think that confidence is an abstract, elusive concept. That you either have it or you don't. But this is absolutely not true! There are many things we can do to build confidence.
1) Praise traits and behavior not only accomplishments.
Many times we only praise our kids for academic and athletic accomplishments. "You are such a good soccer player!" , "You always get Straight A's!" While this may very well be true. If your child breaks their leg (God forbid!) or gets a B, they can find themselves feeling significantly discouraged as their self worth was tied to these things. We should absolutely praise, celebrate and aim for success in academics. At the same time though, our sense of purpose and worth shouldn't be tied to these things. Try complimenting them on their personality traits- "Wow, you are so kind!", "You are so good with sharing" , "I love how you are so patient". Pointing out the positive traits in your child, makes them feel confident and reinforces the good behavior!
2) Positive Statements
The average 2-year-old child hears 432 negative statements per day, but only 32 positive statements each day, according to a research study at the University of Iowa. We should be warry of what we say around our kids. Kids are like sponges and they soak up everything around them good or bad. Changing statements from "I don't know how" to "I can learn how" are simple ways we can change negative statements to empowering ones.
3) Promote putting yourself out there!
Lead by example by trying new things. "I have never done this before but, I will try, its good to try new things!". Model the behavior you want to see in your children.